WAH in MLC with PA

[DiamondGirl]

So some positive news.. but not entirely..

I can qualify for my home's mortgage if H agrees to give up his claim to the equity... It isn't actually much when you figure out what comes out of it if the house is sold (or I walk away and stop paying for it)

Verbally he said he would, so I got a lawyer to start drafting a SA for just the debts and property.

I was advised to change the payments on the mortgage to monthly instead of bi-weekly so that should I have to walk I have 4 months instead of 6 weeks...

So since H is on the mortgage, it needs his signature...

So I text SIL (cuz he's with his ho with the dough) and ask her to contact him regarding paperwork needing to be signed as it needs 14 days notice to change the terms.

She tells me that he said to email the docs to him and he will sign and fax it back to me...

In the process of composing the email, I get an email from him saying.. If you sign my version of custody I will sign your docs changing the payment info.

I cannot believe that he tried to bargain with his kids' home!

I told him that and said sign and fax by XX or I will stop making payments on the house as I cannot afford the bi-weekly payments as they are set up.

So far he is refusing to sign them.. so if he won't sign docs to merely change the date of payment, then he won't sign over equity...

He would rather the kids go through another traumatic change then sign something so they don't have to...

I definitely don't know this guy.. and definitely don't like him..

I'm really fighting the anger thing right now...

I felt my "done" feeling slipping before this... but now I'm back to done...

I am so tired of all of this.. and though I can see clearer on some things, I don't know if "done" is my way of protecting myself (as was so intelligently suggested)... I am usually not a quitter and it goes against that...

I just want things to be settled all around.. this chaos and not knowing what direction I'm going in over the next few months is tiring...