My suggestion for you guys with little kids is to let "them" pick something out for Mommy. If they see flowers at Walmart and want to get that, then fine. But, PLEASE, do not order her flowers from the florist and sign the kids' names. They don't have fun nor feel that it's really from them (and it really isn't, is it?) and guess what.....the WAW won't truly like what you did. Oh, she will smile for the kids and she'll say thanks....but her heart will be cold toward you.
Take the kids to a varity story and let them chose something. If it's bubble gum, Mommy will love it (especially if you let the kids wrap it). If they pick a size 3x nightgrown or a pair of fishnet stockings.....whatever, but she will "know" it was all her children's ideas and not the H's. Just don't let them get near the jewlery counter unless you are ready to shell out the dough or take a chance on a $2 pair of earrings. Never can tell about these youngins!
Mothers love it when little children "buy" her a gift. You will see her glow b/c she gets so caught up in seeing her babies excitment in giving her their gift.
I would say the same thing should go for the big kids, too. Just give them a limit they can spend.
If you men always got something for your W in the past, then my suggestion is to find a card or make one... maybe with a snapshot of your kids that says "Thanks for our beautiful children". But don't get dramatic or show a bunch of detailed work, b/c that will say toooo much to her. You can find tons of cards for the mother of your children....but....they are waaaaaay too mushy for the stitch. Keep it simple.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
