Wow! Just loving that I read that D mediator is someone who can mediate the D as well as actually be the replacement of a L. My H would like a mediator. I think I would too. Problem is, no one bothered to tell me that a mediator doesn't set aside the L. You do one or the other. Everyone told me to protect myself, get a L, handle my L matters.
Per DR, mediators can sometimes help to save the marraige. I'm not telling my H that that's why I prefer a mediator but now that I know he wants one too, I'm screwed yet again. I, just last week, per everyone's advice signed a contract with a L for $4500 of my parents' money that they really don't have. As if I can get out of that or ask my parents to hire yet a second person, a mediator!
Wow! So much for my hopes that using a mediator alongside my L might help to save my marraige b/c I can't afford it. Would've been nice for someone to tell me the difference and suggest that I check into mediators BEFORE hiring a L.
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