H is an HGTVaholic!! He can watch those shows for HOURS. I used to watch with him, but it depresses me to see FINISHED REVEALS. (in 1/2 hour no less.lol)
Maybe I should check out that one and tell him I'm applying to be on it.lol.
His main LL is Acts of Service. I'm not sure how I would convey my wants and needs via that language. Can you expound on that?
I offer to do things for him every day---some days he has me do only one or two things, other days he runs me ragged. My C actually told me to take care of ME first, because my H was keeping me busy all day long for months (why I nearly left him) and I was totally neglecting myself.
So I have "been there" with speaking his LL and it doesn't get me any closer to having anything finished around here. He just gets wierder and weirder in what he wants--like a little dictator with no one to tell him ENOUGH!!
Now I am eating better, sleeping MUCH better (he would come home at 10-11 and give me "things to do"!!) and exercising and I am telling him NO. He has been VERY sulky and VERY moody, and when I ask him what I can do for him today his answer is usually a curt "nothing".
I know I have to get better at this boundary stuff because I either will turn into a doormat again or I will completely go bananas and file for D myself.
