Mariage Row or Marriage Bliss?

[Onthemountaintop]

Did you need to ask those questions?

She came to demand those things either the night before or that afternoon.

Would it have been better to let her iniate whether she wanted you to have more separation or sleep in another location.

Initially when D was more certain, I was in the b'rm because she wanted it that way. Since then, each time she's got angry, asked for a D or a separation, she's stormed off to the kids room. This time, after she demanded a separation for the 12th time, I told her I wanted time to be more alone to get my attention on GAL instead of being ready to implode each day with another R talk, quite a few of which tend to become a fight eventually. I also told her it wasn't a trial, I wanted to stay M to her.

Could you have asked her what would help to keep her from sleeping the kids room.

I did. She wants a complete 105% stop to me using porn. I promised I will stop, but I need time dealing with the addiction (doc and IC suggest 1yr+ to really clear up my thoughts)

She hung up before I got to the third thing and we haven't talked since. You know, all this fighting is got the fight out of me. I really want to give up.

I think I'd tell me to do what I'm doing - do some GAL until our R was calm enough that I can talk to her without her insulting, criticising, defending everything to a point of ignorance, and attacking me. I would say I need to get pro help. I would say that I need to be patient. I would say reconsider the lock on the door - which I had until the 12th request for a separation. Now, I don't know how to get it across that I just need some air!!

Turn this near breakdown into an opportunity. There are stil options and alternatives.

I know I need to hear this. Maybe it is my ADHD going, but I just want out!