Jak, The only thing I can think of in terms of W that needs to change is infidelity. Everything else can be tolerated or worked-thru. The other thing I need is to continue my ballroom dancing interest, and want to continue to take lessons and go out dancing besides Salsa at least weekly. I want to hold onto that for myself.
The truth will reveal itself in time. I will work at what I think I need to, and if the infidelity persists, will deem the situation unworkable. I'm hoping that increased companionship, and moving from a roommate to a partner mindset will help move us forward.
I sent her an email today discussing options that I would consider. I want to take the night off from Salsa. I get weary of Salsa every Friday night.
I may start giving her first option during the week regarding activities we do together, rather than make plans for myself to have a quiet evening at home. Again, a shift from roommate to partner mindset.
We'll see if these changes can increase the connection enough to prevent her from being wayward.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
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