I blew it off because I was doing the no contact thing. Usually I would have texted him or called him crying.
While you did great by not calling him, you didn’t really blow it off either…
Did you?
Originally Posted By: Goodfight
Anyways I got this sick feeling inside of me yesterday afternoon and went onto Match.com and there he was.
Originally Posted By: Goodfight
he kept pushing my buttons and I guess he finally won.
Yes he did…
Because you let him…
Originally Posted By: Goodfight
Where do I go from here? I really want to save this marriage.
That is not what you told your H.
What you told your H was full of threats, manipulation, and attempts to control…
Where do you go from here?
Well, GF, you made this bed, now you lie in it for a while…
Your M, the M you had with this man, is dead…
That does not mean that there can’t be a new and better M in the future, but at the pace you are going, it isn’t going to happen.
Right now, I see you as a Divorce Statistic, not a Reconciliation Story…
This is not because you stopped having contact, this is because the continued contact you do have is still full of anger, desperation, and despair.
You have had so many wonderful people trying to get through to you for a year…
I wish I knew what else I could possibly say to make you see that this is not about your M, this is not about your H and what he is or is not doing, this is ALL ABOUT YOU…
Goodluck Goodfight…
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
