I am Sorry to read what happened. I just read your posts as I have been out of town at a conference. I see that your W is giving you quite a list of things she needs from you but you have been much more reserved about what you want. Maybe you need to give it to her. Lay all cards on the table so to speak. Maybe you have and I am missing something. W seems to think that you have a lot of faults. I think she really needs to look in the mirror. I do agree with Mat however that the intimacy issue maybe at the forefront of her recent actions.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez