Wow starving artist, I had to look through your posts to make sure you weren't my W. Your situation is almost identical in many ways. We have had intimacy issues for awhile. I agree that I did a very piss poor job at really listening to my W but now I really know that if I would just shut up and listen, things would go so better. I have really started to view my wife in a new life. She is pretty no nonsense and opinionated (in a really good and real way) so she comes off pretty tough sometimes. In actuality she is really soft, sweet and sensitive. I have just started looking at her as the strong but delicate woman that she is. I admit I haven't always treated her as soft and gentle as I should and I am really ashamed that I pushed such a beautiful and amazing woman into feeling so rejected by me. I am desperate to make her see that I can really dedicate my efforts to cherishing her like I should.
Artist, how would you want you H to act in this case? How should I approach telling (or showing) her that I am really 100% invested in making this better and saving our R.
