BTW - Thanks for the comment on my thread. It was helpful~
I was reading through your pages of pain. I hope today brings some closure, although I'm going to guess it may just open up some wounds.
If you want to answer them, I had some questions for you:
1. Could you make a list of all the reasons you want to divorce her?
2. What reasons do you think that she had/has for going to the OM?
3. If she came back to you in a month or two, would you want to forgive and accept her back or would you just consider it?
4. What things have you done so far to change (180s) the M environment?
5. What have you been doing to deal with the stress you must be feeling so you don't show it in body language, words, or actions?
I hope your meeting with OMW goes well. Hopefully together you can better understand what drew them together. Just be careful to not end off making it a revenge plan.
Have you thought about giving her a DB book for her to try? If her H goes back to her or is considering it, then your W will not be so drawn to him.
BTW - did you plan LSG to rhyme with LSD??? Amazing how love can be more powerful than drugs~
