Hugs! Please PLease Please treat yourself to something special today! A manicure, an ice cream sunday, a new book, a walk in the park... something nurturing, something positive, something wonderful just for YOU! Because Darn it! You deserve it!
I am still hoping your H will have a change of heart when the baby is born... I can still wish right? did you ask if he would stay until the baby is born? Did you ask him for help? Ask that he meet his baby and take part in her life? I know its hard, but did you tell him his child needs him? H may be so selfish that he may not see past himself right now...
Dont know if this helpds but I grew up with a mom and a dad... my mom is my world!!!! My dad was a crappy dad and left a few years ago... and guess what! I realized all I ever had and all I ever needed was my mom. Even now, she is the only constant in my life. as for our H's, whether they were raised w or w/o fathers can turn out to be crappy H's and Dads. My H was raised by two amazing people, had the absolute best dad in the world... they are still close, and cant imagine why my H is acting this way when he always wanted a relationship with his son like he had with his dad. So i guess it doesnt really matter... Bad People Suck!
I dont understand why your H would want your baby to carry his surname if he doesnt plan to be around in his life? Hate that he told you to get a step dad! EWWWW!!!! I threw that in my H's face once in an argument and he got so angry with me! DOESNT YOUR H SEE THAT HE IN FACT ISSSSSSS THE FATHER!!! If us women were supposed to raise babies and children on our own then we WOULDNT need men to get us PREGNANT!!! We would be able to do it ourselves!!! HELLO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Why dont they get this!
Im not sure I agree with everyone in saying if they are not going to be consistent fathers, then push them out. How do you know if he could change? Give him a chance to F^%$# up then kick him to the curb! I would rather tell my child I tried than I assumed... I dont know... perhaps your C could have better recommendations.
