I appreciate the support. I need all I can get right now.
I hope something will make feel better.
I feel so empty in sides except for the hurt and worry.
I guess I am worried more because I do not have a permanent job.
Thanks
The last time I was "abandoned", I threw myself into the gym and lost like 50lbs, got stronger on most excersises than I ever had been. I found out by doing cardio and weights, it releases endorphins ( which are underrated by the way ) which improve your mood. For me at the time, who was emotionally stripped to a bone, this was better than any drug I had done in my youth. Also making progress helped my mind and esteem to rebuild itself.
Taking the daily toll of the affair or mistreatment and using it to go do your workout lets you feel some sense of control over yourself, even while your situation with your wife will not allow it.
In these situations we are worried about the next sledgehammer thats going to come, so you wait, scared, pensive.
The affair bursting allowed you to issue some back, even if it doesn't stick you will feel better.
There is one situation where the wife said she knew and supported it, but that was the exception.
In most cases that wife is going to take the information and the OM will feel it in some way or another. He usually will be forced to choose on the spot, and alot of these guys drop off. Plus many are harrassed by the wife and her friends after this point, so continuing in the situation with your wife might not be in his best interest.
Anyway, you'll be fine either way. You have to continue to arm yourself with knowledge and do things that make you better. Plus you HAVE to have fun doing things you like to do.
