Thanks sandi2. It's hard for me to not think that the behavior everyone talks about on these boards as kind of inflamitory. Granted she is doing something that is hurtful to me but a) I feel a large responsibility for her current feelings and b) acting rude and selfish (or at least seeming that way) kind of got me here in the first place.
I understand that we want to create space and even some re-kindled interest in ourselves by pulling away but can't that be done without malice? I am really trying to show my W that I can be a better version of me and the old (or current) me is prone to snap and get defensive quickly. Regardless of my hopes for the future, I don't want to perpetuate and continue those attitudes.
Tattoo,
Where has anyone recommended anything that was inflammatory, hurtful, or with malice?
