Her attitude was not like this before the affair. It is progressively becoming worse. She just doe not give a sh!t it seems about what I think. She go the opposite of what I think just to P!ss me off. It does not work as much these days, because I do not get too angry. Only sometimes.
LSG,
They "jump" off our anger. So if you can stay calm it really helps. Mine got progressively worse too. So you "get treated like dirt"? Before mine was stepping out on me, she treated me so well and complemented me through her body language, her actions, her eyes and her voice. Today each of those is opposite, I'm disrespected and torn down through her body language, her actions, her eyes and her voice. However very recently she is attempting to bridge a gap as a friend, and appears to be a non-sexual one. We are going to marriage counseling though.
Mine goes against me too, and everything I ask of her is met with usually "no" and if not "I'll think about it".
I think the MC is going to help because its a lady. Oh and some other non-violent solutions to breaking the affair is to report them to the "cheaters" series or the "Dr Phil Show".
I hope yours go well, but as you know that its alot harder to have any effect with the affair partner in the loop and any friends which are supporting her cheating on you.
My MCs were a male and a female with the lead counselor a male in my sitch. I have cancelled all the remaining sessions with both of them. Also Cheaters is only in Texas and the Dr. Phil Show is not currently on the topic of cheating.
It will not have any affect with the A partner in the picture and the friends that are also having affairs and think she is so great for having hers. They look to her for reassurance with their own A. Here friends and family will support her wrong or right. Good friends, huh! I do not see nothing changing with the support for her doing what she wants then what is right.
Oh well...I have to keep doing what I am doing for myself.
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My son was asleep, so I just went and put him back in his bed. She asked what time it was, but I just left to do my thing and did not answer.
Also I have been taking her to work since I work a temporary position, but she does not want me to pick her up. So I don't.
She does not want to go anywhere with me period anymore. She goes when the kids ask. I am glad when she does not go these days because she is so irritating and rude.
LSG,
Mine didn't want to go many places with me either. She would go to eat ( money ), but we would usually align against each other. In the car its a silent powerstruggle or "holding position". We used to like to spend time together, so in the past riding in the car was spiritual in a good way even in quiteness.
It is good to reflect on these changes and understand in all the ways we are currently being cheated and for signs in the future.
My MCs were a male and a female with the lead counselor a male in my sitch. I have cancelled all the remaining sessions with both of them. Also Cheaters is only in Texas and the Dr. Phil Show is not currently on the topic of cheating.
It will not have any affect with the A partner in the picture and the friends that are also having affairs and think she is so great for having hers. They look to her for reassurance with their own A. Here friends and family will support her wrong or right. Good friends, huh! I do not see nothing changing with the support for her doing what she wants then what is right.
Oh well...I have to keep doing what I am doing for myself.
Oh, I see... So she finally started her affair. With friends like that, I don't know how you will get through. They have grown closer as a by product of her affair. They basically took her from you. You gotta take care of yourself buddy. On the wife... Your situation is several times harder than most of the guys here. your wife would basically have to decide the life that the friends are giving access to is crap or that they have hurt "her family". You guys have kids?
My MCs were a male and a female with the lead counselor a male in my sitch. I have cancelled all the remaining sessions with both of them. Also Cheaters is only in Texas and the Dr. Phil Show is not currently on the topic of cheating.
It will not have any affect with the A partner in the picture and the friends that are also having affairs and think she is so great for having hers. They look to her for reassurance with their own A. Here friends and family will support her wrong or right. Good friends, huh! I do not see nothing changing with the support for her doing what she wants then what is right.
Oh well...I have to keep doing what I am doing for myself.
LSG, how did the counselors know that the wife was using the counseling as a driving force in her divorce? Did they have ears up in the attourney world or something?
How do I handle that our acount was just direct deposited a 1/3 of what we normally receive? We do not have enough to pay rent. I wonder what my wife has planned for me. What should I do to the pay the rent so we are not kicked out?
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Well I took all the money out. She cannot pay the rent without that amount. I guess it is decision time for, and I will have to be prepared for it. I have listened to everyone that has come and gone from my thread. I have and will be doing all the suggestions that have been give to me. Some I have already, but I always worry that my computer could be watched. She has no idea what I have planned. I do have a plan and a contingency for almost every outcome that can happen. She will find out, and I will mention them once I have protected myself and my kids. That is my only priority. The W she is now only a W on paper. She was once my "love." Sad day for me and the kids!!!
I have to do alot tomorrow. It is going to be a dreadful day for me and the kids for what is going to happen to our once happy family.
(((to everyone that is going through the pain I am and have been))) I am with all of you. Those I post to and do not.
Keep positvie and do what is best for you.
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Wife has transferred most of her money from her pay check to her federal credit union. She says she will give me the money to pay the rent and look at the bills.
I am seriously considering D at this time. I am so hurt and disappointed today. I have to take care of myself and my kids.
This is not going the way I had hoped and tried for all these months. I would work on the marriage, but the way it is now I do not want to live in a marriage like this.
It makes me sick to my stomach just thinking about what is happening.
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So this was the 2/3rds of money that was missing? Also today is the day you talk to OMW, you are doing it for you not necessarily to save your marriage.
Did you say your wife was a Federal worker of some kind? Those types usually are not fans of marriage.
The other thing I learned on DB is writing letters. Some people are writing letters to employers where they have suspected on the job affairs.
