Took my wife for granted, now she is done. help!

[TimeHeals]

If I was his W and was wanting that book, and he bought it for "him" to read in front of me and then said I could read it when he finished it......I would want to kick his rear. That is the very kind of thing that a WAW will balk about. Besides, it's rude & inconsiderate,to say the least.

Sandi, I guess I would never offer that advice to your spouse then

I don't see how its rude for him to go buy a book and read it under any circumstance. I was thinking it would show that he is taking an interest in some of the things she is interested in.

It's not as if they are on good terms and she is telling him, "Honey, I need to remember to pick up that new book by [author] that I have just been dying to read".

If she had specifically mentioned that book, then I would be in agreement. This sounds more like he was trying to be thoughtful (to me), and I am not sure she is open to that right now, so better to proceed with caution.

In the middle of our M crisis, my W was talking about going home to visit her family, so I said, "If you want to go visit family right now, I suppose we can afford a plane ticket", and her response was "Stop trying to make this difficult". In her mind, being thoughtful was me being manipulative, so... something to think about.