As for the other book, why don't you just read it yourself? No need to hide that if it isn't all R stuff. If she asks about it, ask her if she'd like to read it when you are done with it (but then you really, really need to read it).
If I was his W and was wanting that book, and he bought it for "him" to read in front of me and then said I could read it when he finished it......I would want to kick his rear. That is the very kind of thing that a WAW will balk about. Besides, it's rude & inconsiderate,to say the least.
I do agree that he should not share the DR book or LL book or any R books. He doesn't need to read them in front of her or leave them laying around for her to see.
These books and this board are your tools to use to bust a divorce. They are not tools for her. It is like your game plan and if you try to get her to see your plan.....then it just kinds of takes the power away, doesn't it.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
