I should have known not to get my hopes up. Yesterday my husband asked to talk to me. He wanted to discuss divorce again, and him moving out. He says he stayed home last weekend to talk to me, but that I avoided him. Sure, I was giving him space, but we were still in the same house, he could have easily talked to me.
Anyway, he has threatened to leave before but has never actually done so. Yesterday he stated that we can no longer live together because he doesn't trust me. Hmmm, sounds pretty typical MLC, he's having the affair, but he can't trust ME? He says that in the past few weeks he thinks I've been snooping and 'making comments' that show my disdain. Alot of other things that I think are imagined. He claimed I was moving papers around on his desk, was snooping in his closets and clothing, all things I am innocent of. I guess this is part of the projection on the LBS. He also stated he thinks I'm talking to both of our families about him, something else I haven't done!
I was thinking it might be good for him to get away and spend some time alone, perhaps it will get him off of the paranoia. Also in the past he has said he didn't mean to hurt me, that he was sorry, etc. however yesterday he was just angry and ugly, stating 'my behavior' was making him start to hate me.
2 years into this MLC mess and I was having hopes, now I'm sliding back down again.
Me - 38 Husband - 40 MLC! Together 12 years Married 11 years Still the love of my life Forever only lasted 10 years before his MLC and affair
