I don't know how old your wife is, but my wife was 40 years old when she decided to drop the bomb in December 2008.
I was just about to start a ten month period of no contract work. This, I believe has been a contributory factor towards our divorce.
I believe my wife evaluated our relationship at that point and probably felt I could not provide the financial security she wanted. I, like you would have lived anywhere, but for the women out there please do not think I am making assumptions here, and without trying to be generalistic or chauvanistic I believe women want to feel as though they are with somebody who will provide for them and their family on a consistent basis as historically, men have been the major bread winners.
It seems a poor 'excuse' but I was interested to see the poster who said that WAW's are hugely concerned about their spouses income. It should not make a difference but clearly it does.
I met a man who was worried about losing his wife because he was unemployed due to the terrible economy. He said he was treated badly as a result and she was having an affair. He said that he has to find a job if he wants to save his marriage.
I told him that it shouldn't matter, that his wife should love him regardless, but he was saying thats how she is. I thought it was rather cold of her. I guess we should understand our spouses motives for getting with us so we can understand were we sit with them. Just say you where rich for a period of time and you met your wife. You think your in love, and due to circumstance you are reduced to "regular" wages, and theres nothing you can do about it for the forseeable future. Your spouse is angry, shows you less love, pulls away because you are not as attractive to them. Is this right? I'm not saying its me, but some of us are in that position.
For the man that I described earlier, it seems that the marriage and the love was dependant on him having a job.
