Yea. Both of your are right. Ok, I will wade into the "gray" starting Sunday. Today I am 100% focused on "as-if" and it's going to have to do. W is feeling sick and that REALLY sucks for the kind of day we'll have tomorrow. I am being nice H and encouraging her to rest, etc. That's as opposed to laying into her, calmly setting boundaries or otherwise acting jerky...er... gray-ish. Again, my mantra is "not today" and no, that's not an excuse, it's reality. Too much at stake to risk the kinds of reactions both of us may have to a venture to a-hole land or even a dip into gray-land.
