Thanks sandi2, you really put some things into perspective fo me. I really do think that W has expectations of my to be the "leader" of the house, so to speak. I didn't have a great example of that growing up and she did. Last night after she went to bed I spent some time doing things around the house (cleaning etc) and really put forth a sincere effort. Not sure if she noticed but I'm learning that it matters if I feel good about what I've accomplished. But my behavior last night was definatly a 180 from my normal after work routine.
As far as love languages go, we've never looked at it together (maybe we could and that could give me some insight) but from reading about them, she sounds like a mix of several. Mostly I would say she needs quality time and affection where I feel like I fall somewhere around giving gifts and acts of service. If she warms up to the idea, maybe we can look into those languages together.
