Kissak, you did good. Nobody likes to fight (I hate it too) but sometimes these "negotiations" are necessary.

IMO your H acted like a typical male (at least my H is like that). He was way too upset with the coach that he didn't want to talk to him right away for fear of blowing up. He likely wanted to calm down first (smart). When you did beat him to it (He was still heated) he took it out on you. When he calmed down, it wasn't a big deal...

I'm glad that you are forcing yourself to make changes and are not walking away from confrontations.

(((hugs)))

M53 H54 D17
M33Y T38Y
Bomb OW 09/09
OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10
WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10
Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO