Well never say never ?? No, but seriously, I was thinking this morning (after reading sadly what had happened with bbj and Dan) it IS an extrodinary thing where you are.. not only that he willingly came back after 3 years with ow, but that he does seem '1000% in', as he said to you recently and recommitted to you and your M..even if he doesnt romance you quite enough (or barely !?) still!
And what you have done is huge, HUGE.. you took back and are willing to try to trust him again after a 3 year affair. But then, to have not done so, would be 'cutting your nose off to spite your face' IMHO. There are so many positives, surely, to getting your H back, even if things arent perfect (there are, arent there!?).
I understand you wanting to 'verify' the trust you are putting in him - you dont want to be made a fool again and are extra alert, worried she is still present. Even in my seemingly stable sitch I get nervous now and then...bf still has some contact through work and as I saw again last night, she is probably NOT over him. I guess for them, they got dumped and he is 'the one that got away' afterall.
Its natural to feel nervous. How about being honest with him and talk it through, seek some reassurance?? xx
