FLTC: I know you just want it done. No one can blame you for that. But in a couple of years you will NOT be happy about how it went down. Don't throw in the towel now!
Divorce just amazes me. My H also had an affair and threw my dignity to the ground. I get nothing. I am not even working as retirement was forced on me a year ago. No Alimony. I had to buy HIM out of the house that was built for our disabled son. I lost bigtime when I decided to sell it (should have done that at the time of divorce). I got nothing from his pension.
I honestly believe, though, as long as you have some pension and some earning power - you will be ok. I stopped talking to my ex a long long time ago. He is STILL an angry man despite the fact he is in the R he wanted, got what he wanted in the D. He is still not happy. Do you know why? because he will NEVER be happy. because nothing and no one is ever going to be good enough.
But I am gone from the drama. I have moved on with my life. And I am happy again.
So - I get how you feel. Totally. But I also know that you shouldn't get in the hole and just say "OK" because you might be sorry down the road.
My divorce took 4 years. It was not a pleasant road. It is now 5 years since I got it. And it is history.
Your kids will be out of the house in a few more years. I think you might negotiate something to keep them there until son is in school but that's it. That is what I would be looking at.
Divorce sucks. Getting out of a bad marriage does not suck!
