Thanks for the feedback on the hug Kat--I waffle a lot on this sort of thing--on one hand you make an excellent point--it is so hard to ask for what we want.
Yet I don't want to be "persuing". I know it's a bit different this time in our sitch--he is not the one wanting to leave--**I** am seriously still thinking about it. There are so many areas that are lacking in our R. I can't really "go there" in my mind because I get far too discouraged.
But his complete disregard to this house and leaving me with holes in the walls and unfinished moldings and $4000 worth of appliances sitting in our garage--including a new dishwasher that I desparately wish I could use (I am washing by hand 1/2 the dishes that come out of the old one now).
I almost wanted to say to him "Gee, H, that is nice of you to offer her a place to say--but unfortunately since our living room is so tiny and there is room at the moment for one couch that sits 3 at the most, what do you suggest she do while we watch television in the evenings? Course there are the nights you work--guess she can join S and I then.
I keep scouring these boards looking for answers. On one hand, no expectations (which, I've had years of practicing that) and on the other hand is challenging him to DO something around here without coming across as a nag. Which is my old way but it did work!
