I have a bit of a problem with being responsible with financial matters and house related things. I agree that I have always dropped the ball with those things.
For some of us women, we see our H in his role of being the provider/protector/leader, etc. in relationship with this very issue. I'm not sure how you mean house related things, but to me...the man was the one who took care of the plumbing, replacing woodwork, painting, triming trees.....those sorts of things that (even though women are capable of doing them)we like to see our H taking charge of the "heavy" jobs. "Housework" that was once considered "woman's work" is now shared by both partners....and should be if both work away from home. If she got stuck with all the work.....and saw you not holding up your end of things, then a lot of resentment started building.
A lot of W's take care of paying the bills, etc., but whatever the "responsibility" was that you fell down in.....I bet she related it with "leadership" as the H. When it comes to financial matters.....if the H causes the couple to get into serious debt, damages the credit, loses the house or whatever.....there again, he is showing weakness as a good leader/provider/protector in the M. She becomes insecure and at the same time, can lose a lot of respect for the H.
It's most important that you are a solid leader that shows strength that she can respect and rely upon. We women need to feel that toward our H b/c it affects our feelings in the R.
Maybe it has be discussed already, but do you know what your W's love language is?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
