i agree with you. and i tried. he told me we would talk in monday to see which night worked. like i said, big businessman, constantly taking client out, meeting clients, one night seeing his kids after work. so we usually made the plans on monday,figuring out our schedules.

so as much as that was normal for us, i told him i wanted to set the day now (as in yesterday) and he didnt budge. said we can figure it out on monday. so i said, i heard that, but im afraid next week will pan out like every other week and even him promising these days doesnt mean too much.

so here we are. i wanted to say forget it and at the same time, ive waited this long, i can wait till monday, make the plans and see if they materialize. if they do, i have the chance to talk to him finally in person and discuss where we really stand. if the plans dont work, im finished.

any thoughts? i realize he is in control here, as much as im speaking up, im tolerating his controlling behavior.

i think he is completely wrapped up in his issues right now and he knows he has me so im on a shelf. but i think he sees im more serious right now than i have been.


me: 31
H:29
Son:5
m:8 years in november
t:10 years
first bomb: 10/06
moved home: 3/08 out again 5/08
ow bomb: 4/08, since summer 06
d filed:6/08, on hold 6/08
moved home:3/09 out again 5/09