My Heart is Breaking #14

[AliSuddenly]

Hi NTL,

I think when we all read you thread, there is alot of focus on H, a man who you are no longer in contact with and has remarried, so obviously we are concerned for you.

You still make alot of sweeping and disparaging statements about ow, but you dont really know her. If she is as awful as you say, what does that say about your exH that he is happy to be with her and 'rescue' this damaged person? Sometimes we have to accept, the person we loved is either, not who we thought they were, or, that they have changed. It can happen, we dont all stay the same over the years and growth isnt linear.

I agree with Kimmie in some respects, although I did reconcile with my H, I believe this is just luck of the draw and not down to dbing. A small percentage of men in life DO want their ex's back. But there were always clues when we were apart (he told me he missed me, he contacted me regularly, he bought me bd and christmas presents, he cried when I saw him, he hugged me hard etc etc..) there was never such a brutal ending.

This man has behaved very cruelly towards you. You say you are family but he hasnt even contacted you in a long long time to see how you are. Not very nice hey. Sorry for your pain, I hope you can find a way to move forwards even if you dont want to let go of hope,
Al xxx