Bbj, the man's brain is "stuck". Somebody or by himself has put this idea in his head you havent been surrportive (how washis mom with his dad btw-not that you should care anyway)and he has seen that triggers you and uses it constantly. It's the ONLY thing he feels you cant defend yourself because it us not as tangible. What else could he say? That you cheated, that you werent forgiving, that you are a bad mom, that you are moody, what? It's all crap.
Turn the page and accept the fact that you invested so much in a man that wasnt worth it. I know how hard that is, feels like cancelling your own life and choices. The truth is, it gives you freedom and wisedom to have a do over. And I AM talking about another good solid relationship. I know how that sounds, but I BELIEVE that your kids, will be benefited by having another male role model in the lives when the time comes.
You cant see it cause you are hurting. Dan is a broken man. Dan has issues that you couldnt have helped with. Imagine this, all this mess for YEARS and he has not said ONE word about his shortcomings!!! He is hopeless... Stay strong sis K
