Working on a NEW marriage

[Surviving03]

Thank you Aces and dday! Dday, I get what you mean about couples only married a short period of time and get into trouble like this. I felt VERY discouraged about my sitch for that fact alone... That was a big driving factor as to why I wasnt sure I wanted the marriage anymore myself... I thought if this is happening after only 2 years, what kind of life do I have to look forward to?? But then I thought, and also my DB coach had said, sometimes when people find themselves at this point 10, or 20 years down the road... it wasnt that the problems in the M had just started, they were probably happening for all those 10 or 20 years and peoples breaking points are different... so basically I can get to the root of these problems now and save ourselves 20+ years of this same stuff... thats how I see it. Dr Phil said once on his show, or on some show he was on, I think Rachael Ray, he said the first couple years of marriage can be the hardest, and sometimes when people discover their unhappiness in the marriage 20 years later, they werent growing and improving for 20 years, they were living that first year of marriage 20 times.... he said it differently than that, but you get the point. So that stuck with me and I realized that even though this happened after only 2 years, we just might be better off for MANY years to come!