Hey Kimmie,
Thanks for going a little more in depth. And actually, One thing I'm sure of, is 'my temper' isn't an issue in our relationship contrary to the way it might appear . . . and wouldn't have appeared that way for very long other than someone doesn't seem to want to cut me any slack and let it ride . . . and still continues with insulting crap like "maybe you should try get a job." Wow . . .that idea never crossed my mind. Thanks.

Time Heals:
The difference in what I'm doing here and what she is doing is that I'm trying to SAVE, my Marriage, not looking for justification to end it.

You then assert that my wife has already decided she doesn't care what I think and is gonna discuss this with her friend. Not sure how you know that, as I don't even know that.
I'm worried she will, but I don't have a clue if she'll honor my wish. When I apologized for asking her not to, all she said was something along the lines of "okay" it was pretty ambiguous, actually.

Anyway . . . . .
Again Kimmie, I appreciate you cutting me a little slack here . . like I pointed out, being blown out of the water isn't something I deal with on a daily basis.

As for your assessment of The first book, I can't disagree, though in Michelles defense, I screwed up right off the bat by purchasing two of them and mailing one to my former wife on the way home from buying the book, then saw I wasn't supposed to do that. Essentially . . .I gave the ex my "playbook."

Now my next thing, please don't take this wrong, Kimmie, I'm just trying to make sense of this. It doesn't seem outlandish to me to show my Wife something written by a professional that shows that relationship advice from friends is usually bad.

As for being mysterious, that would make me more suspicious than curious if she did that. She isn't mysteriously disappearing right now, and I would hate to give her the rationalization to start doing it too.

Again, I'm not trying to be argumentative here, I'm just trying to make sense in my own head of all this.

Last edited by Bummedout; 04/30/10 05:34 AM. Reason: clarify last sentence
Life may be short, but . . . well . . . it actually IS short, now that I think about it . . . . particularly when compared to planetary formation and stuff.