Tonight W came home at 6 pm which is very early for her. I wonder why. Same bad attitude. She let my son ride his scooter to a school international food festival that I told he could not. She let him sleep in our bed again which I told he could not. She does everything opposite of what I tell the kids. It is so irritating. She is so rude. I just cannot stand it. I do my best not to fight, but I do tell her that it is wrong to let him doing something that I told him no to already. My daughter gets mad because she cannot. It is my bed too. She is so disrespectful me.
I do not know how to deal with this situation because it so makes me angry, but to get angry does not seem to be the DBing way.
The kids do not listen or respect either one of us now. It is just awful how poorly they act, and how they pit us against each other. This is not good for them, and it will affect them when they are older. She does not understand that. She does it to make me miserable. She is also making the kids against each other.
She does not get it!!!
Ruleset here concerning kids. Me and my wife run into these "contention" problems from time to time. See I am having a hard time controlling them, she is not really listening to me - so I can be in the middle of disciplining the children and she will over talk me. The kids look to their mother and then it messes up what I was doing. Like you sometimes she will switch it or allow what I was disallowing. I explained it to her, but she wasn't hearing me because its been going on for a couple of years. I think in front of the marriage counselor she will hear it.
Rudeness is likely due to the empowerment on cheating on you. She doesn't have to listen to you, nor respect you and it shows in the actions, tone of voice, etc. Was this different before you knew about affairs?
