Getting bad advice from "friends" . . . . .

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You CAN control your wife - IF SHE ALLOWS IT and vice-versa.
Alot of good information here.

Aye, there's the rub, eh? Now, I too find the advice of friends and relatives almost useless in relationships, and what is more... I have noticed folks will shop around for the friend or relative that offers the advice that supports their own position the most when they are thinking about leaving a relationship.

That being said, there is a bit of irony in being mad about a spouse that does this with a particular same sex friend while you do it with anonymous strangers on a message board.

We're all trying to help in our own way, and most of us have walked in similiar shoes at one time or another. Different things have worked for each of us at different times, but ... I am thinking... he already told his W. he didn't appreciate this role her friend is playing in their marital problems..., and she already decided she doesn't care what he thinks about it right now.

I am thinking this might not be one of the fights he may want to pick when there's so much more going on in his life.

I would think getting out there and pounding the pavement and getting another job that pays well might be a huge turn around, for example. I know it's tough in this economy, but if he were single, he'd have to do that if he wanted a house to live in.