It seems to me that the WAWs with the least to complain about in their marriages are the ones who are the nastiest while walking away. Maybe they need that to keep themselves going?
Amen! Bingo! Ding Ding Ding!! How succinct - and true.At least it fits my sitch to a "tee". Thanks.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
I have already talked to L about this and there is not a lot from a legal standpoint that I can do since there was not an overnight involved, seems the legal system does not have much of a moral compass does it?
Sorry, but I don't believe L for a minute on this. He's wrong. Contact Child Protective Services and explain this unacceptable situatiion.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
Your XW should have let you know that she wasn't taking him to daycare and yes, that was stupid of her not to, but that's where the fault ends.
I respectfully disagree. This was not "stupid" nor is it where the fault ends. It is unacceptable and irresponsibly neglectful and deceitful on her part. Child Protective Services, buffet. That and/or a strong, iron-clad, no B.S. Boundary on this!
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
I as his dad am supposed to know where and who he is with--it is written in the decree.
You're right and your L is wrong on this. I am as incensed and livid as you are. I keep repeating myself, but run this by Child Protective Services and tell L in no uncertain terms, this is a VIOLATION of the decree and you want to know what he proposes to do about it.
Or get another L.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
Well S*** hit the fan this morning in a good way for me. For the first time ever I (strategically) lost it on XW. I called her on ALL of her BS and left no doubt that the next time something ever happens out of the schedule without my knowlefge that the consequences would be CPS and back to a courtroom with a motion to file a temporary protective order against XW and a permanent motion for full custody.
The look on her face was priceless and scared s***less. And gues what?---I do not care. I sound alot more out of control on this post than I really was but I am still just as mad as I was yesterday about this situation.
Thanks for the support, we will see what the fall out is, I do believe that S2 will get to where he is supposed to be each day now.
H: 30 W: 31 S: 2 T/M: 6/4 D Final 4-5-10
Bomb: June 09 Status: D'd and moving onward and upward?
Hello again! I feel like I fell off the face of the earth. I actually just moved into a temporary house until mine is ready and did not have computer access for a couple of days.
Nothing to interesting to report just yet, just wanted to let everyone know that I have not disappeared!
H: 30 W: 31 S: 2 T/M: 6/4 D Final 4-5-10
Bomb: June 09 Status: D'd and moving onward and upward?
Ok been awhile since i have posted in my own thread so here goes....
Things have been pretty good, i moved out of the house and am at a friends while my house is beng built. As of 3:00 today I am the proud owner of a hole in the dirt!---never been so excited about a hole in the mud!, nor has a hole in the mud ever been so expensive....
And on other news.....I had a date......and I am not broke! It honestly felt great and felt like living again. Actually I confess i had 2 dates with different girls and both went well, all of a sudden after not feeling wanted for almost 18 months I have choices!!!
So one of the girls in particular is really spending alot of time in my thoughts and it is crazy, exciting and scary at the same time. Great girl, lots of fun, makes me feel GOOD again, etc........too soon? I am not sure but going to go with it for now.
I would love to get others thoughts on this as it seems many of you also at least went on dates shortly after the legal part was done? I made a pact with myself that I would not do any date or anything of the sort while legally married and I did not. However in alot of ways I feel like I have been D'd or at least not married in well over a year already so I feel like I am more ok with it than maybe I should be (or maybe it is than I am erceived to be?)
Also for laughs---XW saw my profile I guess on a ____.com site and said "I see you are looking for dates now?, do you really think it is a good idea to get out of one relationship and go looking for another right away?"
Really? Really XW? It is not a good idea for me to look to go on some innocent dates but it is/was ok for you to get into a full fledged affair, actively try to conceive a child out of wedlock while wedded to another person, break up 2 marriages, and make plans to get married as soon as the law will allow.....
So that is ok for XW to do, but me looking to move on and get out and have some fun, regain some self confidence with the other sex, live life again AFTER we are D'd that is not ok?? WOW! She needs help!
H: 30 W: 31 S: 2 T/M: 6/4 D Final 4-5-10
Bomb: June 09 Status: D'd and moving onward and upward?
Thanks BBJ! Hey went to the Cards game today---another W!! WOO WOO First place and best record in the league so far, it is going to be an awesome season it looks like!
H: 30 W: 31 S: 2 T/M: 6/4 D Final 4-5-10
Bomb: June 09 Status: D'd and moving onward and upward?
