Getting bad advice from "friends" . . . . .

[Bummedout]

Hello Folks, I'M not really a 'newbie" I was here about a decade ago when my ex-wife left me . . . clearly it didn't go so well. (Bought the DB book back then, 2 copies, gave one to my not-yet-Ex . . . got home, promptly read the part where is warns QUITE EMPHATICALLY to NOT do that . . . only got worse from there . . . so newbies . . . Don't do that!)
Well, I'm in a 'new relationship' for the last three years. My company closed down (16% unemployemnt in my area, you get the picture)

Anyway, when my first marriage broke up, a HUGE contributor to that outcome were her friends encouraging her to dump me.

Well, A few days ago I got "I've lost respect for you/ILYBINILWY/I'm DONE bombshell dropped. She told me about discussing it with one of her friends whom I know is rather good at sounding quite "sage and wise" from everything from how to train horses(I've forgotten more about training horses that she knows) etc. Suffice it to say that I KNOW she is getting misinformed advice and it ain't gonna be pretty for me. This woman doesn't 'hate' me as far as I know, we actually get along fine, but from other situations I've been privy to, I suspect my wife is gonna get the "You have to make yourself happy girl, and if he doesn't make you happy anymore, well . . . "Helpful advice"

I'll also say I don't really think my lack of a job is 100% of the issue. Heck, I don't think it's even 30% of it. Her parents are on her HUGE about being about 2 months in arrears on her house payment. The house is hers, even though while I worked I paid more than my share, and insisted on my own initiative (mainly for her parents, I knew they were a little concerned) that I signed a prenup that made it clear I made no claim whatsoever on the house in any way shape or form.

The other factor is her 17 year old daughter, who talks to her like she's an idiot and thinks my Wife is her personal valet which annoys me, but I'm kind of a 'lame duck" man of the house, so can't do much about it. On the plus side, her daughter knows I'm not one to put up with crap . . . and we get along fine, actually. But she'll play her mom like a slave puppet, and treats her that way too.

Of course my wifes friend is only vaguely aware of these situations, and I think I'm bearing the displaced feelings.

Anyway, I know I screwed up when I asked her (almost told her really) that I didn't want our situation discussed with her friend . . . I've already been a victim of THAT problem.

About fifteen minutes later, I did go and apologize, said I didn't have any business telling her who she could discuss what with. I kept it short and to the point.

Problem is . . . It is FREAKING ME OUT. I just ordered the "7 steps" book from Amazon, but . . . tomorrow my wife is gonna spend the day with . . .yep. I ain't got a clue how to handle this. Michelle has a page that talks about this very situation, but I already know it happens . . . my question is what do I do? I'm a basket case over this. Any advice or personal experiences would be greatly appreciated.