Burt, it seems to me like you were in a MUCH better place -- and your wife responded pretty positively -- when you took a stronger stand. Ever since you've been piecing, you're getting more and more like you're walking on eggshells around her, and tolerating -- even enabling -- her bad behavior.
Sorry for the 2x4, cuz I consider you a DB friend, but I don't think your situation is going to improve until you shake up the equilibrium rather significantly.
