-a WAH in an A with OW who is in his country in Europe -he's telling me he's going to live his life o/seas and I should find a stepfather for the child and the kid will be alright -He would like the child to carry his surname in some way -he had never asked me or agreed to be at the birth (but friend says he wants to)
Why should your daughter have WAH's surname if he wants you to find a stepfather, is moving to Europe and hasn't told you he wants to be there at the birth? And how complicated is it to add his name if you guys R in the future?
OK and this may be too early to say. But when I was talking to my best friend she said other than WH reconciling with me, the next best thing would be abandoning S so that I could find a stepfather and give S an intact family. Can't say I disagree.
Last edited by newmama; 04/30/1012:57 AM.
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
