If your pattern of behavior was NOT spending time with her then your 180 will be finding time to SPEND time with her. You can't force it but you can create the situation where spending time with her obviously means you're giving up something you would normally do. If you would "normally" go out with "the boys" then don't. If you would "normally" spend evenings working in the garage...then don't. Whatever was your "norm"..change it.

That's the 180.

By pursuing I mean, don't try to convince her that she needs to give you a second chance by discussing it to death. Create the environment where giving you a second chance is a desireable option.

Hang tough and take care of yourself through this. Eat and sleep and get a support network.

I'll be checking in on you.


M 52 W 37
Child: Hers: 2 9/11 Mine: 2 22/9


Bomb: April 2014