feel like giving up - pt 2

[luvless]

Hey LSG - my marriage wasn't even half bad thats the problem. We were a family...a real family...that ate dinner every night together...even breakfast...he was always around and involved in the kids' lives. At least I remember at the time (and being grateful) I did recognize it..so no regrets.

James - awwww.....how cute are you? I will accept the hug gladly

[LSG]

luv,

I am sure that makes it harder for you. I have thought that I had a pretty decent marriage, and we ate together and spent time as a family too. That is the problem for you, me, and others in similar situations.

I just wanted to say good thoughts are okay. Keep your positive attitude

(((Luv)))

[Onthemountaintop]

Hey LSG - my marriage wasn't even half bad thats the problem. We were a family...a real family...that ate dinner every night together...even breakfast...he was always around and involved in the kids' lives.

So if after a month or so he came back apologetic, which seems very unlikely, and he began doing 180s, would you want him ever again?

[luvless]

LSG - if I saw TRUE remorse and an effort to change himself (counseling) I'd definately consider. My husband was worth it...now as he stands...he isn't

[Onthemountaintop]

My husband was worth it...now as he stands...he isn't

Maybe when you meet with your L, keep that though in mind. Act with the latter, comfort yourself with the former.

Try to get some good rest, Luv.

[luvless]

good morning everyone..

It's a beautiful day here in California. The weather really helps me be in a better mood.

Mr. Luv is getting served support papers today. I emailed him on some important stuff he had to know about and surprisingly he wasn't a jerk. He said to give him a list of bills and he would pay them. I wanted to say - you wanted this - you handle it! but I'm trying to be respectful so I will give him a list.

I've got 5 days before he comes home so that will be really awkward. I am not looking forward to that!

I'm feeling alone and sad but I'm hanging in there. This is hard jeez. I'm fine and then all of a sudden it hits me - ugh.

I hope everyone has a good weekend - we all deserve it.

[CityGirl]

VERY POSITIVE on both your parts about the communication for bills. While it is difficult to converse, it's necessary when it comes to bills/money so I am glad it was a decent exchange.

It is a gorgeous day here too! I have the flu

Enjoy the day!!!!!!!!!!
xoxoxox

[luvless]

good saturday morning people....

Well CG left you on a tiny positive note and am back for a negative one. Mr. Luv cancelled my Amex yesterday without warning. I am beyond upset how he can be this way with me. He could have at least warned me.

The Amex was my last way of spending so now I am completely without. Nice huh? coming from a man who said I'd never have to worry he'd always take care of me.

It's another beautiful morning here and all my kids are out with friends since yesterday so I am alone. I feel like it's gonna be a hard day so I'm gonna make the best of it.

I'm feeling really alone...upsetting because normally I enjoy being alone. This sucks guys

Luv

[beingreal]

I know I'm new here, so am I allowed to comment on what a jerky move that is?

Because it really is. His absolute dooshiness is astounding.

I'm so sorry, Luv. I agree with just taking it one day at a time, keep breathing. Although this day has started off badly, just remember that this is NOT the way it's always going to be. It will get better, I promise.

Hang in there. You're doing better than you think you are.

[Geomom]

Hey Luv, I hear you ... the Jekyll/Hyde thing that comes out is mind-blowing. My H (whom I suspect is seeing an OW) has told me in one breath, "I always take care of you and our son," and in the next, "What do you mean, support you? You're a grown woman, you can work."

I know how you feel, too: I usually enjoy some alone time (not easy with a needy, moody H and a rambunctious 7-yo boy at home), but this kind of alone sucks. I hope you can take comfort that, thanks to all the supportive people here, you're not really alone. Goodness knows this forum has been a real lifeline for me.

One day at a time, one day at a time.