What does this mean?- the WH's regrets?

[pearlharbr]

Babydoll and Gatsby, I respectfully disagree.

Allowing cake eating IS harmful to the situation if there is OW. The choices are not only being friendly or being bitter. Not initiating contact and being lovingly detached do not fall into that either/or scenario.

Gatsby--you want to do this because it will make you feel better. Remember that DBing, at its heart, is counterintuitive. You already have expectations of how you want this to play out. Expectations are not good. It is also controlling behavior. You want to control what H discusses with his IC.

You are choosing to ignore the possibility of OW. That's your choice to make. Just do it knowing that sticking your head in the sand won't solve anything. I've read what it's done to others and it isn't pretty. All of them said afterwards they wish they had faced it earlier because they feel they wasted a lot of time and effort and set themselves up for bigger heartache.