I am just as confused if not more confused about my h. I don't think he really knows what he is doing at all. I have asked over and over will being d make you happy and each time he says he doesn't know. He is just tired.
Then stop asking him!
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement