It will be slow... That's GOOD.. it gives you time to gauge his motives... if it all flew at you at once your head woudl be spinning and you would be pressed to just take him back blind.
I really don't reccomend you talking to him at all... You have a FT you can work through for info... But, you aren't gonna listen so I won't waste time arguing the point lol
I think if you push for a transparency plan heavy your H will turn that into a game and try to outsmart you... don't push too heavy on the TP plan. You should have one, but don't make that the beginning and end of the session.
Right now your H hasn't done anything to warrant trust yet... He's escaping from OW to you... That's all he's doing right now... This does NOT mean HE has grown up at all.
Remember a few months back he was excited about getting a "bachelor pad"... Now OW gives him an ultimatum and he runs to you?
You need to back up a LONG step or two... You already sound like you are rushing into marriage again...
I don't trust this guy even half an eyeblink yet...
Has he made his cell phone records available to you voluntarilly?
Don't ask for them.. Just wait to see if he offers them up...
