Truegritter here showing up for little friday happy hour!
I am having an old vine Zin. I had tough week too. As you posted I got the "I don't know if I can trust you" comment yesterday that one really baffles me!!!
Anyway it is enjoy life time so let's kick it back, I'm on the back porch too in the sunshine state with My Morning Jacket (indie band) playing so let's make it happen cap'n!
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
Well Fellow DBer's, It is that time of the week again, yes it is Little Friday !!!
This is my mantra that keeps me going week to week. Always maintain a Positive Mental Attitude, especially on Little Friday.
"Never give up no matter how dark it gets or how bad you feel."
This is an open invitation to join me as I travel to the islands tonight "Mon", I will have the corona's ready to go and Mr. Marley will be taking me down to the caribbean. If the islands aren't your cup of tea grab your favorite beverage and put on that music that takes you to another place. Make tonight a good night no matter what, Life is Good and what your going through right now is temporary although at times it seems it will never end.
Remember what Bob Marley says;
Don't worry about a thing, 'Cause every little thing gonna be all right. Singin': "Don't worry about a thing, 'Cause every little thing gonna be all right!"
A quick update on me, is that the positives have slowed a bit and we did both sign the separation agreement yesterday and I delivered it to my Lawyer today. Not such a great thing but I do try to find the positives in everything and the positive here is that the agreement is behind us and we do not have to talk about it anymore!!!
I have absolutely zero expectations and the ball is in my W's court.....I like the ball there. It seems that in the past when the ball was in my court and I threw it I would always end up going out of bounds, LOL.
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
I haven't posted anything specific about my sitch in 3 weeks now, I have been waiting and watching, I had a lot of positive signs the beginning of April and was very hopeful then things cooled off substancially, so I just pulled back and waited.
My W and I had an argument over the phone last night over the fact that she did not call our S9 all weekend and he was upset, that she had not called at all. (This is usually typical when she is with the other man.) It lasted all of 2 minutes and was not that bad but it sparked several text messages after that included apologies from us both, this was a first.
The texting continued today to include that she "Missed being a mom" and she "missed being a wife". We have communicated more about our feelings today than we have in months. Our S9 was supposed to go over to her place tonight but changed his mind today. I called my W to check on her after he called her to say he was not coming over. I knew she would be upset, we talked for a little bit. She said she felt more comfortable texting, at the end of our conversation she asked for me to leave her alone for a while.
I am going to give her more space and time. It is the hardest thing when there is a huge step forward and you have to back off and let them set the pace. Its like running that race/marathon and you are constantly watching someone elses feet so that you don't run too slow or too fast.
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
MLH, I guess your wife is just doing the MLC thing - starting to move forward and then running back into the tunnel. Time and space. Time and space. (reminding myself here, too).
I hope she comes through for your S9 - this all is so hard on the kids.
Its 3pm est where I'm at and I will be welcoming the weekend a little early in a couple of hours. On top of that I will be meeting my W later to drop off the my S9 for the night. At her suggestion we are meeting a local pizza restaurant (S9 loves pizza) because of the fine assortment of beverages they have available and she said "After all its Little Friday"!!! Not a date but hey, I will take it.
I know she still has a ways to go but she is taking baby steps, Trying hard to remain patient and have no expectations. I know this may sound strange but I am trying to win back her trust even though she is the one who broke the trust between us. I know she has to trust me to not react when she starts to open up about her feelings.
Well, should be a good evening on the patio tonight. If you stop by, Van Morrison will be the music choice and as always coronas will be on ice.
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
I know this may sound strange but I am trying to win back her trust even though she is the one who broke the trust between us.
Nah...it doesn't sound strange.
Trust is one of those vicious cycles...
Steal a penny or steal a million dollars...while it is EASY to justify one as not mattering...by all definitions you are still a thief.
Broken trust is like that.
Always work to rebuild it or keep it intact.
Yeah I know affair... trumps alot...but does it?
Its just a matter of overkill.
Attacking a man to death with a butterknife is still attacking a man to death. Using a suitcase nuke is overkill...results are the same the guy is dead one just has alot more fallout.
Aside from that Miss.
Good for you for doing this...but lose the she started it first thing...it WILL impede forgiveness.
Enjoy your little Friday.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
Just checking in and glad to see that things are looking positive. As you have noted keep those expectations at zero.
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
