Katie I D my H in 91 and remarried him in 94.Nothing is impossible.You are doing the right things in looking after you and your boys.Our sitch is similiar.My H was the last person I would have thought who would have an A and he did..it hurts like hell..but some day you will be strong wnough tht if he does realises what hes lost, you will be able to make an informed decision with you in the driving seat.
Whatever happens you will have a good life..

ME 44
H 45
D 14
D 20
M 22 YEARS
TOGETHER 28YEARS
Bomb Drop 14th July 09
Seperated-living with OW 10mths(14/07/09)
MLC 3years

Silence wasn't golden in this marriage; it was deadly," Dr. Robin L. Smith