My Heart is Breaking #14

[BeingMe]

Gosh! I haven't been on your thread in ages, nlt. I just thought I had to respond to Kimmie Lee's post. I don't think all situations are the same, Kimmie Lee. You knew that your XH was capable of having an A before you married him, since he had one with you. Whereas, nlt's did not display these tendencies. Your XH will likely leave his present wife too, baby or no baby. I would guess that the baby will make it more likely since the new wife will no longer have the time or energy to give to him as she did before. Friends have told nlt how different her XH is compared to before he left. I do believe that some men are just entranced by manipulative women who make it their job to get married men to leave happy marriages. There aren't a lot of them, but they are out there. Your XH is an adulterer and always will be --- there are those men who are serial adulterers. I feel sorry for the women involved with them. A happy marriage does not make you safe from A's. Nothing does except, perhaps, open communication, truth and honesty, and even then, I doubt you are safe. I don't know what can protect you from a H or W committing adultery. I guess one should never take one's happy marriage for granted. There may always be that time when your H/W meets the wrong person that ignites something in them for whatever reason.

I hope you have loads of fun with other people and that you meet someone special again, nlt. There is no guarantee that another person can be trusted, but one must always live in hope that there are those who will be honest in R's.

Well, that's my opinion --- I could be wrong. Take care.