Thanks to all for your opinions and advice on the anniversary question. After thinking about it for a few days and taking advice into consideration I will not be acknowledging the anniversary.

Yes, I am sad that the day that I considered the most special in my life has no meaning to the man my H now is.

I will not be wallowing, but I might be imbibing. May have the adult children keep the cell phone locked up just in case.

It will be what I make it.

Thanks again everyone. (((Hugs)))