Great advice!!! Yes, it has been 2 years since the divorce was final. I don't know if I'm ready to date, but I'm ready to get out & have some fun. I really don't think this will be a date, it's mostly just meeting this person. It will be with a group, so I think I'm ready for that. I'm actually ready for a change.
Thank you so much for the advice, my ex married that woman 2 months after our divorce was final, I'm not moving that fast! I was like you, I would never date as long as I was married & besides that, I had to give it time. Part of me still feels like I'm M but that feeling is going further away. It's tough being alone. I have my dog, she is like my child & I enjoy just being with her, but it is time to get out. I will be very careful b/c right now, I have a hard time trusting people, especially after all that I have been thru. If this get together happens, great if it doesn't, no worries.
I may not be ready, I'm just ready to get out a little more.
Thanks again!!!! (((HUGS))))
nlt, I identify with you a lot. We both had WAH's, mine also married ow right away (she was pregnant before we even got divorced) and I know how much pain you are in.
Was your h married before he met you? Mine was and I know for a fact that they talk about us because mine complained about his former w too.
We aren't special to them once they leave. They are not "brainwashed" or otherwise "ill," and it would be so nice to believe that. But the cold facts are that they have someone else and have moved on.
They aren't coming back. We have to accept that. I know it's hard, but it's true.
And for those of you out there with your freak instances of the returning, remorseful spouse, don't bother trying to admonish me. These are too rare to be taken seriously. Especially when there is a new wife and child in the picture.
