My husband is addicted to an emotional affair

[nicole8]

Sooo spoke with a db coach yesterday morning... Then I came home at lunch and my h was at the house. It didn't go so well. He was angry and moody and wanted to come over later that evening with d papers and we could sign them. He said it was either that or he was going to have me served at work. He doesn't want a lawyer and I can have everythinghe just wants out as quickly as possible. I was not nice to him and lashed out again and brought up the ow. He lied some more about it.... I just said fine I will take everything because you are the one who is quitting. I left the house. Three hours later he was bugging me for me ss# and when he could come over. I told him to drop off the papers and I would look them over. That angered him and he said fine I'll do it my way and have you served at work.

He finally agreed to come over to the house at 8. When he showed up he sat down on the couch and took his shoes off. I sat down and saw he left the papers by the door. I got up and got the papers sat down and started going through them. He reached over and closed the folder and said "don't you want to talk" I asked him about what? We ended up talking for awhile.... He asked what I want. I told him I want him to be happy and if d will make him happy then that is what I will do. He said that he doesn't know what will make him happy and he is tired of everything.

I think the word tired is his way of saying depressed. I told him I don't think he has made a fair effort at our m the last 7 months. I said a third person has been in our m for 7 months also and until that person is gone I don't think making a decision about m is right. He said the third person is gone. Now I actually believed him....I think that she found out he is still m and had not filed and that is why he was so mean and pushy yesterday in a last ditch effort to prove to her he was serious. I don't know this for sure but something changed drastically in him. The sad lost h was at our h last night and that is the most normal I have seen him in a long time.

The h also told me he had a nightmare the other morning with his dad in it (his dad died 3years ago). He woke up at 4:30 am from the dream and heard his phone alert a new email.,. The email was from his dad. This really freaked him out he looked like he was going to cry.... His dads email was closed so how did that happen....

The night was long and he fell asleep on the couch... I don't know if we are getting d because neither of us signed the papers. To be continued I guess.