What does this mean?- the WH's regrets?

[newmama]

Or I could just look at it objectively and say no matter what he is, it's better to have a lighter correspondence rather than a serious one.

How would this change affect our dealing with the baby? Our potential divorce proceedings?

Would he take it that I want to be 'friends' and contact me more while staying far away from commitment? Is that okay for me? Is that getting closer to piecing? And what if he has an OW? Would he just think that I was so "last year"?

lol Gatsby about the "last year" comment!! haha! It's like this- as long as you have no expectations, and aren't hoping for something to come out of it, then do what you want. It is better to treat others decently than not, and since you will be stuck with him as the father of your child, why not be civil. It's just that if you are hoping it will make him come around, that is the wrong reason.

Will he think you are being friendly and turning around to be "ok" with the situation? Possibly. But one random email wouldn't be enough to give this impression- your behavior patterns over time would.

If H has OW then you are enabling his cake eating. Nothing will change because he is getting the best of both worlds--a good time with OW with no responsibilities and friendship with you with no responsibilities. You put yourself in limbo and then six months to a year later (or longer) wonder why you're still in the same place.

Yeah- she's right that there is a greater chance of prolonging the A if there is one if you allow cake eating. When you feel ready to find out if he has an OW then do some snooping. You will know when you are ready- I remember not wanting to know if WH had gone underground after he said he ended the A in Jan 09. But then when March rolled around, my body was tingling and aching and my mind wouldn't stop thinking of it and I was ready to find out.