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Have no idea if we even have one in this town, not to mention she would just say, you are always just trying to fix me aren't you? I would love it.

I have decided to drop this for a while and be the best I can be, eventhough I am sooo tired from last night, staying awake, and worrying about things. Brought me back a bit.

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Who cares what she says?

Burt, it seems to me like you were in a MUCH better place -- and your wife responded pretty positively -- when you took a stronger stand. Ever since you've been piecing, you're getting more and more like you're walking on eggshells around her, and tolerating -- even enabling -- her bad behavior.

Sorry for the 2x4, cuz I consider you a DB friend, but I don't think your situation is going to improve until you shake up the equilibrium rather significantly.

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You should know me well enough to know I can take a 2x4 and say thank you sir may I have another.

Pup, I did try to take the strong stance, I came to her and I told her she can wollow around miserable or come with me as a possible. Right now she is taking the latter...

I will go forward. I am going to see my counselor Wed of next week, I will go through everything with him, and he is very good, very DB like.

I guess I am waiting for the $ to have something behind me to throw out the big artillery. First of two invoices over $12,000 went out yesterday. Am I wrong with this thinking, or am I just being a wimpass.

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Said that completely wrong, I told her come with me and move forward, or keep being miserable. Right now she is the latter.

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Originally Posted By: dburt


I guess I am waiting for the $ to have something behind me to throw out the big artillery. First of two invoices over $12,000 went out yesterday. Am I wrong with this thinking, or am I just being a wimpass.



No, not being a wimpass so much as you are perhaps guilty of the same thing we are both accusing your wife of: linking your marital health/dysfunction to the presence/absence of money.

The two of you need to learn to be happy when the big bonus checks AREN'T floating in.

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I agree.

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All I can do is be happy and enjoy life. She actually has been working and it has been at a funeral home, so she can only work when there are no services. So, she worked Saturday and came home, she was tired and layed on the couch. I tried to get us to go to our country club(yes, I know) because they were having a derby party. She said she was too tired.

So, I got up took a shower, through on a sports coat and off I went, and I had a great time.

I will not have her bring me down, if she shows bad behavior, I will call her on it. Otherwise, let her get tired of the muck she has put herself in.

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Originally Posted By: dburt


So, I got up took a shower, through on a sports coat and off I went, and I had a great time.



EXCELLENT!!! grin whistle


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I am committed to being the best father, husband and man I can be. Going to see a therapist today by myself, to get his perspective. He was her IC and then our MC, so he knows our history.

Great big infusion of $ coming tomorrow, should be interesting to see her reaction in the next couple of weeks.

May 14 is our anniversary, #16. I have plans to take her to the big town and watch a broadway play that she has been wanting to see, and spend a night in a 4* hotel. She does not seem to be excited about it. But, that is not my problem, if she does not go, I will, and have a great time without her. I cannot control her, only myself.

THinking of doing something nice for me, with the $ coming in. Any ideas?

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Went to the IC today, He had her pegged, I feel better, but it will take a while to get from here to where I want to be.

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