reconciliation after divorce?

[any chance?]

Abbey:
Thank you very much for your thoughts. It is so hard to know what is the right thing to do, whether I am being an idiot or helping a 19 year soulmate through a very rough patch of her life. Whatever I do, I have this feeling that I am screwed, but I cannot seem to drive this little glimmer from the back of my mind. W discussed D plans today, changed plans to attend a fam reunion, etc., and I was calm and cooperative (we have never been very argumentative). Today I am GALing full force..first time in the gym in a long time. Trying to shake the demons. I am going to be here when she needs me, but avoid any sort of pursuit at all. Yes, the show last night was ill timed, but had it been planned for months.

I am going to go the reunion without her, yet support her, not defame her to my family. She means too much to them. This is going to be really really hard.

She is in a rough patch, and her problems with our marriage are massively compounded by deep depression. I find it very hard just to dismiss her, to move on without her. Yes, there is apparently an OM EA in the picture, and we shall see how it plays out. She and I are both guilty of past transgressions, and if she really goes for the OM, then she is not the person I thought she was. Please understand that I am not some wimpy mess sitting back hoping she comes back to me. My brief time on this site and with the DR has taught me far better than that. As you say, I am just trying to plot out a path that can work with my sitch. Need to be both hard nosed and go with the gut at the same time sometimes. I do hope I am not being a fool.

Thanks for listening.